Giving up has a real bad rep; not only do the words have a nasty ring to them, but deciding to put something to bed has somehow become connected to the idea of failure, rather than a lesson learned. Letting go of a project, relationship, or ambition can be crushing, and whilst perseverance is admirable, it can come at a cost to both physical and mental wellbeing. Knowing when to let go can often be just as important as knowing when to carry on, so we've taken a look at the signs.
Fun Sponge
If you find yourself not enjoying the tasks and hobbies you once did because of an underlying anxiety about the project (or person) you're beginning to lose faith in, it can lead to a slippery slope of bad feelings towards the good things in your life.
No Happy Endings
Not being able to visualise a positive outcome can cause a lot of stress and feelings of hopelessness. Without a light at the end of the tunnel you're simply stumbling around in the dark, the uncertainty of which is detrimental to your outlook on not just the cause, but your faith in the success of everything else.
Self-Doubt
When a situation becomes toxic it will often leave you with feelings of worthlessness and ineptitude. Whilst this is far from reality, a project should be abandoned if it comes with consistent self-doubt and insecurity.
Always On Your Mind
If the only thing you can think of loops back to the hopelessness of the situation over and over again, you're going to be neglecting so many other wonderful things, from relationships to personal health. If your first thought in the morning and your last thought at night fills you with dread, it's time to reassess the situation.
Opinions
Sometimes the only reason we're sticking at something is because we're worried what other people will think - which means it's not worth it anymore. People are often too wrapped up in their own lives to give a second thought about yours, let alone judge it, so rather than sacrificing your happiness for them, save it for yourself.
You're Unhappy
If the idea of quitting fills you with relief and the thought of continuing fills you with dread, then start paying attention to your unhappiness and look out for yourself above anything else. Your mental health and self-worth are amongst the most important things in your life, so prioritising them is the better choice when choosing to let go.
Final Note
Your friends and family are there if you need support in making a tough decision. Learning how to let go is hard, but choosing to do so at the right time can do a world of good. If you have any tips on making it a little easier, let us know at hello@sundaysanctuary.co